Dating a transgender woman
And sometimes it will be as simple as mentioning, ‘Oh I just got off a Lifeline call.’ Because I was a volunteer coordinator for them.Or I’ll say, ‘Oh I was working with this youth person and they’re trans,’ and then I can segue into saying that I’m trans, too.
But it’s not the first line, and it’s not the last line. It’s a good barometer for me of who actually reads my profile, because if you read it all the way through, you would have found it.“I firmly believe that with dating apps especially — and that’s the only way people date these days that I’m aware of — you get out what you put in.
So if someone just says, ‘Hey baby,” and expects me to go on this diatribe about myself where I reveal everything, that’s not who I am.
I never wanted to do that first, and then transition and have it affect all these other lives.
That was the narrative I’d read when I was younger, because that was the only path afforded to a lot of people.“That being said, the practical reality of having children is all the more difficult now. That was something that was very important for me to do.
I feel the person out about it, and I do that quickly.
It’s not a dominating conversation when you’re dating somebody, but if they’re not fully on board and aware of what’s going on, they’re not worth my time.”I’ve spoken to trans individuals who don’t like feeling like they “need” to disclose something like that upfront. Now, some will give you the option to list a trans status, but I don’t believe it belongs there.
, I'll be talking to people with a broad range of experiences to see how things are different — and how they're the same. I’ve been doing a lot of advocacy work and speaking out on trans issues lately.
Of course, these individuals don’t speak for entire demographics, but they do provide some insight into the nuances of the very human search for love and connection. I was in medical school two years ago, but because of an administration that was hostile to my transition, that kind of fell by the wayside.
If I don’t think they’re worth my time, then that’s fine.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating